by Greg Lincoln
Last week we talked about how it is like to visit places once loved by those who have passed on. The memories are still there and they always will be. Visiting those places keeps the memories fresh in our minds.
Some of you have expressed your happiness in our decision to do this – to go back to the places our daughter loved. Thank you for your kind reassurances and inspiring words.
When a person is suffering from Complicated Grief due to the loss of a loved one, it seems like they may want to remain in that state of constant suffering. Why? Because nothing else matters anymore. The ones who are suffering cannot or will not believe that life can still be fulfilling and happy. The sadness of loss consumes them.
When families are whole, it is easy to believe that the future would unfold as planned. And sometimes it does, thankfully. But when families lose a vital piece of their lives, the most precious and beloved of all, everything falls apart. The future become uncertain and life will never ever be the same.
Seven to ten percent of those in mourning will end up struggling and suffering with complicated grief. We must be aware that there may be those among us who fall into this category.
A symptom of Complicated Grief is intense yearning for the lost loved one. How can this symptom be treated? We do not know.
It has been said that the only cure for grief is to grieve. We need to find a way to live with and manage our grief since it is now a part of our lives for the rest of our days.
We need intervention for those that are experiencing symptoms of Complicated Grief. One way to help restoration is to visit them and talk with them about their personal goals for the near and even distant future. You can help them plan on participating in events or doing things that they enjoy. You also need to be there and follow through.
The most comforting thing when you are grieving is having a friend near you, close by, sitting and talking with you. Loneliness does have a cure.
Thank you to those who have visited the resting place of our beloved. When you visit her and the other dearest departed ones you are showing your love and care for us. You have not forgotten our bereavement and you have not forgotten her. How thoughtful of you to bring flowers and other gifts, thank you for your friendship. It lets us know that you are thinking of our family and of our wellbeing. You lift us up and help us to keep moving forward.
Together let us continue to lift up others in prayer, especially those who have been recently bereaved, quyana.